Friday, July 15, 2016
I've taken a hiatus, but I'm back.
I'm back to full time D-Moming.
I stood by and watched my boys learn to fly, and for awhile they did. In fact, they soared!
But something happened to their resolve, and their flying got less magical. Actually, if I'm being super honest, they are more like buffalos jumping out of trees now...they really can't fly at all anymore.
(Repeat a million times.)
I would cheer from the sidelines. I would give motivational talks. I would scold. I would cry.
It turns out motivating teenage boys is pretty much impossible. I just couldn't watch the splatting anymore.
So I came out of retirement, and I'm nurturing them in my nest once again.
This is happening.
I just started doing it one day, and none of them are questioning why. They lift their finger when I approach, and take out their pumps when I ask them to. I have them put in every number. I want them to be aware of where they are. I want them to get in the habit of taking out their pumps every time they test again. I want to get them out of their funks, and I'm hoping if I hold their hands, there will be more flying...or maybe just less splatting.
Also, 2am checks have been happening again. Which means me being awake for hours in the wee hours of the morning, worrying.
Worrying is so easy at night. It isn't right.
I also bit the bullet and ordered new T-Slim pumps for the two oldest. They've been using the same pumps their entire lives, and they need change. Don't get me wrong, I love the Medtronic pumps because they are SO easy to use...but...my boys need things to be mixed up a bit. Rattled up a bit? Ok...my boys need earthquakes.
Which means, Dexcom G5's all around, too.
Big changes. And these impending changes lead to multiple panic attacks on my end, because the 18 year old is leaving for college in six weeks. Will he be able to learn the ins and outs of the new pump and CGM before he leaves?
I'll leave that question for 2am.
Anyway, I'll be blogging again. No more ignoring the splatting buffalos in the room.
D-Mom, back on duty.
Also, I've missed you guys.
Monday, April 11, 2016
Multimillion-dollar companies don’t need to reach out to patients and caregivers, so I was happy to receive an invitation from Novo Nordisk to attend an advocate summit with the less than happy title, “The Future of Diabetes.”
I’m not exactly sure why the title seemed uncomfortable to me.
My guess is I don’t want Diabetes to have a future.
They spoke with me beforehand via conference call and asked what I hoped to glean from our meeting, as well as what I hoped for my children’s future. They didn’t have to ask these questions, but I was impressed that they did.
This would be the first time Novo Nordisk has ever invited patients and their caregivers to a forum. There was only a small group of us, as I believe they were testing the waters to see how it would all play out. They were very respectful and kind, and seemed extremely interested in everything we had to say. I knew we weren’t going to solve the world’s problems, but I was thankful that we had their audience, even just for one day.
There were a couple small presentations, and a small overview of new medications that had come onto the market. Most notably: Tresiba.
I was not familiar with it, probably because it isn’t indicated for children yet, but my guess is that will change in the next year or two.
Tresiba is a long acting medication that I’m told is flatter than any other basal insulin on the market. It lasts for at least 42 hours, although you still would give an injection every 24 hours. The exciting thing is missing a dose isn’t a problem, you can just take it when you remember as long as there are at least 8 hours between injections. As an example, if you normally give your child their long acting insulin at bedtime, and then forget one night, you can give it to your child in the morning, and STILL give them their regular dose that night before bed again. As I understand it, it stores in the body differently and won’t cause lows. Also, the missed hours won’t cause highs. That wasn’t the only exciting thing: It has a 56-day shelf life. That’s almost three months it can be out of the fridge and still remain viable. Nice! There was a young woman that attended the forum who uses Tresiba and is super impressed by it. She says it has completely knocked out her dawn phenomenon and she doesn’t have wonky blood sugars during her menstrual cycle anymore. She used it for months, keeping her pump on only for bolusing. Eventually she moved to MDI completely. I’m not saying this will be your experience, and I’m not trying to sell it to you, I promise. I just thought you’d want to hear what I heard. Information is power. Something to look forward to, for sure.
Obviously, the cost of insulin was brought to the table. And obviously, it isn’t their fault. I’m only being slightly sarcastic here; Technically, it really isn’t there fault, and they do have concern about the cost…it is the current payer system in the United States makes them play the game like this. Even so, considering their profits, I’m pretty sure it’s not upsetting them as much as it’s upsetting us. There was a plea from another advocate to see Novo’s profits as a good thing. They can use this money to make new medications for us, and build new research facilities and production plants as they are doing now. I can't really argue with that. But for me, someone who has seen families suffer because of the cost, I’m not sure I’m sold on the tradeoff. Ideally, I’d like it if patients could work together with big companies, like Novo Nordisk, and go to Capital Hill to excite change in the way our payer system works in the United States.
I asked them why they didn’t have a program to help those who can’t afford the cost of insulin, and it turns out they do! What?! I’ve never heard of it. I didn’t know anyone who has heard of it, or shared that information, and I’m active in the Diabetes Online Community. They even have a website. (cornerstones4care.com) They have a copay program that for 2 years will ensure you don’t spend more than $25 a month on their insulin…as long as your insurance isn’t with a government program. (It will pay up to $100 of your copay per 30-day refill.) The copay program information can be found HERE.
There is also a financial assistance program that you must meet specific criteria for. You can find the information HERE.
Both of these links are hard to find on the website. There was significant discussion about that, and I’m confident our voices were heard. Happily, I signed up for the copay card, and in less than 5 minutes I had one making its way into my hands via my printer.
The last discussion was led by Novo’s invited guest, Dr. Gary Scheiner. He asked us to talk about what we think Novo should focus on short term and long term. He asked about innovation, and what we’ve found to be the most significant change in our lives. Even more than a pump, I felt like Novolog and Humalog were the most significant changes in my boys’ lives. Living with insulin that had to be injected a couple hours before eating was rough. It was life changing to be able to give him insulin when they ate, letting them dictate when they would like to eat instead of the insulin itself. Pumps were also the best innovation…but it’s been almost 15 years since both of those have entered our life…I’m ready for something new.
Long term, all I asked for was something to ease the worry. A faster, smarter insulin would be ideal. Something that would deliver what my boys needed, when they needed it. This coming from a woman that chooses the boys current insulin pumps just because there are a few less buttons to push. In my book, a little less worry goes a long way. As we circled around the table other people echoed my sentiments, including those that work at Novo Nordisk.
I’m very thankful that Novo Nordisk initiated dialog with the patient and caregiver community. This is the first stone thrown into the pond, and as a result, I hope the ripples will bring around change in the future. As a side note, it felt good to have Todd Hobbs in the room. He is the Vice President and Chief Medical Officer for North America at Novo Nordisk. He is Type 1 himself and has a son that was diagnosed at age 5.
They started their presentation with information about the company, and said they hope to go out of business someday.
That’s a ballsy thing to say.
I’m glad they said it.
PS: Charlie Kimball
Another PS: All the information in this article relies mostly on my memory. Please talk to your doctor, and research reputable websites with any questions you may have.
Thursday, April 7, 2016
I wrote this post on the airplane while traveling to an Advocate Forum given by Novo Nordisk. On Monday I will post my thoughts about our meeting. Until then, I'll just leave my emotions here. With prompting from a friend, I left it raw and unedited.
For the past 18 years my life has been submersed in the familial relationship of Mom and Type 1.
My tolerance for the disease ebbs and flows like everything else in life.
Some days I can think about it all day long and my psyche isn’t affected.
Other days, I rebel against it. Pretending it isn’t important. Refusing to give it the power it demands while it sits on the throne of my boys’ well being.
Lately I have been suppressing an uproarious anger. I push it down, not allowing the feelings to make it to the surface. It seeps into my cells and becomes a natural part of my spirit, and as a result, I find myself on edge more than I should be.
There is an article circling around social media about a teenage boy who passed away while driving, allegedly because of his diabetes.
There is another article that generally finds its way right below about a young, recently diagnosed child who passed away.
I flip through the stories, numb. I let the anger sit with me, but don’t allow manifestation.
It exists nonetheless.
My anger exists and I’m so so tired.
I’m tired of watching my children jog on the hamster wheel that is Our Diabetic Life.
I’m tired of watching them give in from the exhaustion and then watching them in horror as they allow the wheel to toss and turn in violent circles until they are forced to find their footing again.
I’m tired of nothing new. Of mice being cured, but humans not. Of organizations leading on that they are hopeful for a cure, but behind closed doors not expecting one. We are like perpetual Hansels and Gretels, finding candy houses and preparing to feast on their greatness; because we hunger so badly we ache…but then finding nothing but fight after fight inside each one.
I wonder if pharma knows how hard it is? I wonder when they announce their profits if they think of us and the constant injecting of their products and the toll it takes on bodies and minds.
Type 1 Diabetes times three lives in this house. There is always someone bolusing. There is always someone eating. There is always someone changing a set, someone overwhelmed, someone who just wants to forget.
Every minute of every day. We are not allowed the luxury of not thinking about it. Yes I am grateful for insulin to keep my children alive. I praise the Lord for it. But I. AM. TIRED.
And I don’t even HAVE diabetes.
I’ve had all three boys on CGM’s before. What results is a wave of information that is so overwhelming I can’t think straight. What results is every minute turning into every second. It results in no sleep for me, and no sleep for them. Beeping. Beeping. Beeping. Three boys in puberty means someone is always beeping. The guilt sits on my shoulder like an especially large elephant. I want them to be on CGM’s, but I cannot. Looking at the graphs my brain swells with the outpouring of numbers. I watch those with one child with diabetes and I know that if I had but one, they would wear the CGM. My child would be safer, healthier. And even though their A1C’s show that all is well, I’m not doing what all of you are doing.
And I hate myself for it.
But the hate is suppressed. I won’t let it consume me, even though it has. Even though it is part of who I am.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t’ feel sorry for myself for having three amazing boys with Type 1. I only know that with three, I can only do so much. And the story I’m telling myself is: it isn’t as much as you.
I’m doing my best.
Yes, they thrive.
Yes, they live good lives.
But yes, they are tired too.
I’ve sat for the past 15 years reading article after article about breakthroughs.
And yet. Same. 15 years of same. Since the introduction of Humalog and Novolog, there has been nothing that has changed our lives. Throw us a bone universe. Give us something that will make life more predictable for my boys.
I’m not sure how much longer I can harbor this anger. Pretending it doesn’t exist has worked for so long…I’m not sure I can continue this forever.
Give us some change. Concrete change that I can pick up from the pharmacy or order from DME. Something that I won’t have to take out a second mortgage for.
Tuesday, March 29, 2016
I rolled over, positioning my knee up for satisfying comfortability. My eyes were heavy, stinging with tiredness, as my body sank blissfully into the mattress signaling its readiness for sleep. Then began the nightly random thoughts dancing through my mind. That night produced a list similar to:
Did we take the puppy out to do his business?
Do I have enough milk for the morning?
I need to work on Angry Birds Bubble Pop in the morning, Doug is catching up to me.
When was the last time the kids brought me towels to wash?
Wasn’t L high before bed?
L was high before bed.
“Get out of bed and check him, Meri.”
“Get OUT of bed.” Said my brain.
I lay there debating with myself, trying to negotiate another time to check blood sugars. It was already past eleven, which might as well have been 4am in my old-person book.
I fought the urge to sleep and got out of bed. I love him. There really was no other choice.
The boys came back from Spring Break in California with only one of the three monitors I sent with them. There might be more tucked away somewhere, but they swear they’ve looked everywhere for them. We had just switched to new monitors so we only had three to begin with. We are now surviving with only one house monitor at the moment, and it was downstairs at the time.
I tip toed the best I could. The wood floors creaked and I cringed with every step, whispering prayers under my breath that I wouldn’t wake the puppy.
I made it down and back to the top floor victorious. Meter in hand. Puppy still sleeping.
I checked L. He needed a little bolus chaser, and I was satisfied he’d be good for the night. Since B sleeps in the same room, I thought I’d check him to make sure all was kosher. Before bed he was 111-with-a-catch. He had insulin on board…a lot of insulin on board. He entered a temp basal and then ate a snack to satisfy the Low Blood Sugar Gods.
Regardless, I was surprised to see the 342 blinking back at me on the monitor after checking B. I went to enter the number on his pump and was especially surprised to see his reservoir was completely empty.
I bit my lip. I guess killing him would defeat the purpose of keeping him alive.
I knew I had to venture downstairs again to get the supplies needed to replenish his insulin, and my brows furrowed knowing my luck might not hold on the puppy front. This was only his third night in the crate, if I woke him he would whine--and if you remember--I was old-person tired.
I heard him stir as I hit the third stair. There was nothing I could do…B needed insulin…it was what it was.
Maybe there was an angel present, maybe it was so close to St. Patrick’s Day the luck of the Irish was with me, whatever it was…I made it downstairs and back up with only a small yelp and a whimper.
I stealthily changed his set and began to head back down the hallway to my room when the thought occurred to me I should check the 18 year old.
He was in the basement.
Two floors down.
“He’s PROBABLY fine.” I reasoned with myself.
I made a U-turn to the basement.
When I got there I sat on J’s bed and exhaled. I made it.
I MADE IT!
Without the monitor.
“Son of a…”
I looked at his sweet sleeping face.
“He’s fine.” I whispered.
“He’s PROBABLY fine…”
I made the pilgrimage back up to the two flights of stairs. While there, I woke both B and L up and urged them to use the restroom. A little PTSD from their younger years and resulting wet beds from sustained highs.
I clutched the monitor in my hand and began to tread as lightly as I could down the stairs. It was too late. The dog was awake. He knew I was blowing up my Fitbit. He’s a puppy, not an idiot.
I got to J and checked his sugar, crossing my legs because I had to pee.
Aside: Why do I always have to pee when I’m checking blood sugars in the middle of the night? It’s a rule, not an exception.
J was 69.
“Son of a…”
Back upstairs for some juice, as the basement supply was depleted. Obviously.
After taking the dog outside to do his business, calming his cries and placing him back in the kennel, I made the last hike up the stairs to my bed.
Just because I don’t blog much anymore doesn’t mean our diabetic life doesn’t march on. I don’t write out my experiences as I feel like I’ve written everything before…
But isn’t that what diabetes is?
Everyone woke up alive, and all is well.
Later this week I’ll be attending a conference in Arizona and be meeting with Novo Nordisk, the company that makes the boys’ insulin. (Disclosure: They’re paying for my flight, my hotel, and some meals.) In a conference call last week they asked what I hoped for my boys 10 years down the line.
“I hope they’ll be able to go to sleep at night and know without a doubt that they’ll wake up in the morning. I guess what I’m really hoping for is some predictability.”
(Insert flipping of table here.)
And that’s all I have to say about that.
Thursday, February 11, 2016
Writing down my feelings has always been a significant release for me. Its taken weight off my shoulders, unpacking the emotions that have come with the complications of life. I know I’m not unique. Everyone’s lives are wrought with hard things. Struggling is the human experience. How we deal with the struggle is key. Writing always helped me find the benefits of the fight.
As the timespan between blogs lengthens each time I press post, I’ve been struggling to find the lessons in the hard things. It’s not that I don’t have anything to write, it’s almost as though I have too much. All my thoughts and worries are disjointed.
Maybe because I have a million and one of them.
I want to find my center again, and I’m coming here to find it.
But what words do I use?
Where do I begin?
My thoughts used to flow through my fingers to the keyboard effortlessly, and now the sit in my head, swirling…overwhelming…stifling my growth.
I suppose I just need to let go.
Let go of the insecurities that come with being a new stepmother.
Let go of the pain of leaving Ryan’s family in California.
Let go of the constant concern for my children’s mental and physical wellbeing.
Let go of the longing for new friends and connection.
Let go of beating myself up for not living up to the standards I set for myself.
Let go of the sadness of all the loss.
Let go of the worry that what I give won’t be enough.
But if I let go of all of that, what will be left?
An empty shell? A superficial wasteland of insincerity?
If I must keep it all with me, how can I find the joyful, secure woman I long to be? I see glimpses of her, but being a woman means feelings.
I’m not a robot.
I’m a contradiction. I hold all my worries close, but at the same time I harbor an immense gratefulness for the blessings in my life. The yin and yang pull me in either direction. A constant tug-o-war of bliss and pain.
I suppose that’s the human experience in a nutshell.
The thing is, I believe I was a spirit before I was a human. I believe that this spirit is an organism dwelling inside of me waiting for nourishment, and waiting for me to let go of the worry and focus on my faith that, in the end, all will be well.
Change is hard.
Feeling I'm letting people down is hard.
But if I’m trying my best, what more can I do?
I suppose all there is, is prayer.
He’s healed me before, He can heal me again.
I read this quote recently: “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
I’m not the person I was a few years ago. Last year in school I expected absolute perfection of myself. At times it was debilitating. Who is this person? It seems I’m just having growing pains getting used to this new skin. I internalize things on a different level and want more than anything for my children, my husband, my extended family, and those around me to have joy…and when they don’t…I feel so responsible for it all. And when you’re surrounded by six teenagers, three with a disease that demands their attention 24/7, there is always some kind of angst.
It’s a lot to hold.
Don’t get me wrong, I hold it gladly.
But more than anything, I want to walk out the door, feel the sun on my face, raise my arms in the air and say, “I am enough!”
I guess I won’t know for sure if I was until all the kids are out on their own and aren’t complete messes...meaning they can feed themselves and remember to brush their teeth...
But one day, I have faith that while sitting on my child’s couch, I’ll watch a grandchild take their first steps. And then it will hit me, “Whoa. I was enough. I really was.”
“And they will be too.”