Scene: Sitting on the couch in the living room waiting for my sister in law to pick up the boys. (My mother in law makes them breakfast every Wednesday and then brings them to school. Oh yeah...I'm spoiled!)
J: Squirming in the cushion, "Ow. My set hurts." (He had just changed his set 30 minutes before.)
Me: "Do you want to change it quick before Lisa gets here?"
J: Shock and Awe mode, "See...there! Right there! You would never catch a person with diabetes EVER saying that."
Me: "Saying what? Do you want to change your set?"
J: "Of course that. And of course I don't. If you had diabetes you would be embarrassed you said that."
Me: "But if it hurts..."
J: "Whoa! You don't have diabetes, you don't get it."
Me: "True. But my brain says if it is going to hurt all day, isn't it better to change it quick and have it hurt for just a second...you know, rather than all day."
J: "Mom, it only hurts when I put pressure on it, and what you are forgetting is that I'm not just a person with diabetes, I'm a 'teenager' with diabetes. Maybe when I'm an adult I will answer differently, but as a teenager I would have to say you have no idea how offensive that question is."
Me: "Because I'm asking you if you would like to poke yourself again, or because you are just too lazy to put a new set in."
J: "Both of those. Maybe you do get it."
Me: "Offensive, really? To you as a teenager, or you as a diabetic?"
J: "I'm not really sure...it's all one thing to me right now. All I can tell you is if you ask me any questions regarding extra work in my diabetes care, the answer for the next few years at least...if I have a choice...will be no, and I'm too lazy."
Me: "Are there any other offensive things I say that I should know about. You know...since I'm not a diabetic..."
J: "The only giant one I can think of right now is that one there. You say it ALL the time."
Me: "Hold the phone, I RARELY ask you if you want to change your set!"
J: "If it hurts you do, if you had diabetes you wouldn't even think to ask that."
Me: "I may not have diabetes, but I'm a sympathizer."
J: "I know. It is ok. Just know that if you ever ask me if I "WANT" to change my set...the answer to that one will always be no."
Me: "Loud and clear son...loud and clear."