A year ago I wrote a blog post called, "I want you to know something." It is one of Our Diabetic Life's most visited posts, still to this day. I feel strongly I need to add some things to the list. I feel strongly that today, there is something you need to know...
You need to know that when you check your child's blood sugar, no matter what the number...you are winning.
You need to know that the worry you keep in your heart all day long is only proof that you are a good pancreas.
You need to know that when your child lashes out against diabetes, he or she isn't lashing out against you.
You need to know that you can switch endos if your endo isn't listening or if your endo doesn't give you good advice. If your child's A1C stays in the upper stratosphere with no hope of returning to earth...you can move on. It is ok.
You need to know that your child's blood sugars will never be 100% perfect all the time.
You need to know that you are stronger than you think you are.
You need to know that on the hardest of days, the fact that you don't give up counts for more than you know.
You need to know that most people don't know what Type 1 Diabetes is. Please don't take it personally when they confuse it with Type 2.
You need to know that it is ok to cry sometimes.
You need to know that shots, or site changes are not something you are doing to hurt your child, they are something you are doing to help your child.
You need to know that your child loves you more than you think. You need to know your child doesn't blame you for all of this.
You need to know that you can't compare your child's diabetes with another child's diabetes. Everyone treats differently. Everyone's body is different.
You need to know that some children can easily acquire good A1C's, and others can't.
You need to know diabetes is hard. You are amazing for doing as much as you do, as well as you do.
You need to know that restricting portions at a carb-o-polooza buffet is something that all parents should do, not just parents of children with diabetes. Don't feel guilty when you have to say no to that third bowl of ice cream, or that second cookie.
You need to know that picking a pump, or a way to manage your child's diabetes is a very personal choice. Don't let other parents make if for you.
You need to know that it is ok to ask your husband or your family for help. It is ok to expect it.
You need to know that there are angels waiting to help, you just need to listen for their promptings.
You need to know that if today is a bad day, chances are tomorrow, or the next...it will be better.
You need to know that you need to do something for you. You are important...your needs are important too.
You need to know that there isn't a reason for everything. If there is a high blood sugar, and you can't figure out why...it is probably because they have diabetes...not something you did.
You need to know that there is a way to live this life with joy. It is up to you to find it.
You need to know that forgetting something doesn't mean you are an idiot. It means you are human and your swelly brain can't remember everything all the time.
You need to know you are loved.
You need to know I pray for you every night.
You need to know that in time...things will get better.
You need to know you are reading this for a reason. You need to know I mean every word.
You need to know that one day your child will be doing this all on their own, and you find a way to trust their decisions.
You need to know that you aren't alone in all of this. I know there are days when you FEEL alone. I know there are days when you FEEL like you fail. You are not alone...you are not failing.
You are not failing...
You are not failing...
I feel really strongly you just need to know that. You NEED to know...you are NOT failing your child. Your best is good enough. Keep moving forward.
You need to know the best is yet to come.