Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Diabetes is a sailboat.
13 years ago I was told to put my child in a sailboat. Alone. He was to journey out to sea and I was not allowed to escort him.
You can imagine the fight I put up. I yelled and pleaded. I dropped to my knees and bargained with God. I had a fit. But alas, my flailing was fruitless...he was literally taken out of my arms and thrown into the boat. I was given no choice. He had Type 1 Diabetes and there was no going back. He could not stay on shore. He could not live without the boat...it was part of him now.
I watched the boat go out to sea and I cried for what felt like forever. The world seemed to be in constant motion, while I was stuck on pause...mourning his separation from the shore.
The viciousness of the waves were horrifying.
My child was helpless.
I was helpless.
I would have done anything to be on that boat. I willed his diabetes to enter my body so I could switch places with him. But apparently, that isn't how it works.
I was given two tools to help my son. A telescope and limited control over the weather.
I have vigilantly had my eye set to that telescope for 13 years. There have been long stretches when I wouldn't leave the scope. I wouldn't shower. I wouldn't eat.
I have had comments throughout the years that my attention would be better placed somewhere other than the boat.
What they don't understand is that my child is on that boat. My heart. My soul. How could I ever walk away from my scope?
My one advantage is, with insulin and food, I can sometimes control the weather. I can smooth the waves and bring him close to shore. On those days it almost feels he is on land with me. On those days we dance together and laugh, and joke that the ocean has nothing on us.
But other days the storms come in out of nowhere. The black clouds close in and the numbers ebb and flow with the powerful tide. On those days, I watch my son ride those waves and I spend the day at my scope...determined to change the color of the clouds. If his boat capsized...I don't know what I would do.
Sure...he is above water. Sure...he is surviving. But on the stormier days his sea sickness weighs so heavy on my shoulders, I'm sure I am going to run out of strength, and one day drown into despair myself.
My son has grown up on his boat, and I am in awe every day of his constant vigilance, and his nimble control of his craft. He is an able captain now. He can hoist the sail, he can watch for the storm clouds. He can batten down the hatches. He can steer that boat away from immediate danger...he FEELS the sea. His intuition is inspiring.
Three boats I have set out to sea. It does not get easier. Every boat I have released has killed me a little bit inside. My husband and I live our lives on the shore waiting for storms, hoping for sun...watching each and every wave.
It is exhausting. It is tedious.
But on the summerlike days, when the boys drift closer to our reality...they hitch their boats together. With their boats abreast, we can sit together and watch the sun set on the horizon and know that we can do this. We see the other boats adrift in the ocean, and their resolve and optimism lifts our spirits.
A bit ironic that the most amazing views...the most amazing perspectives...can be seen only from a boat.
No, it isn't easy. It isn't fair. The children with their feet on land are behind us, ever present...running around with no cares.
They don't have an entire craft to navigate. If a storm comes in they can simply get in their cars and their parents can drive them home. They are not required to have constant courage or patience. They are not required to grow up quickly to take on captaining their own ship.
They are free to run.
Freedom. A gift my boys yearn for.
Freedom from navigating. Freedom from weather.
Diabetes is a sailboat.
Adrift in the sea.
The boats rock gently tonight. I can see my sons at the helms. Their silhouettes against the nights sky.
Each one, every bit a hero.
We pray that one day they may set their feet on the sandy shore and rest.
That one day they may find respite from their journey.
Type 1 Diabetes is a sailboat.
And 40 new sailboats take off from the shore, every day.
They aren't just boats underway with numbers in their wake...they are families lives, changed forever.
They are significant.
Every single sailboat is significant.
And every captain, an inspiration.